How To Eliminate Fear and Conquer it Fast

We all have different fears. Fear of rejection, fear of public speaking, fear of the unknown, etc. Our fears typically control our lives, sometimes strongly and at other times subconsciously. We may not even be aware of the role of fear in our lives, and live with them every day. Without being able to understand why we are fearful and what our fears are, we will never be able to fully eliminate fear.

Let’s take a closer look at how to find where your individual fears come from, and how to eliminate fear.

Where does fear come from?

Fears act as a survival instinct in every living animal. They generally act as survival mechanisms. For example, you may be scared of snakes because you fear deep down inside that if you got bitten by one you may die from the venom.

Aside from our general primal fears such as spiders and heights, chances are you can more or less pinpoint the origin of a developed fear you have. You know that there was a time in high school that you failed at a public speech, and this is why you freeze up when it comes to any sort of public speaking, scared to death that you will repeat the same situation again and again. Or, perhaps, you were rejected by a loved one, and forever hold that fear about all relationships, and as a consequence find it difficult getting serious about anyone in case you are rejected again. If you have a memory that you can tie to your irrational or rational fear, then you must start here-no matter how painful it may seem.

If you can’t readily recognize why you are fearful of any particular situation, brainstorm. Talk to your friends, relatives, and anyone who has known you for years. You would be surprised how much other people take in in relation to your life. Objective reality is always clearer than subjective reality. Typically, sitting down, brainstorming, and collecting insight from your loved ones will let you start to see where your fears come from. It may be a painful journey as sometimes you just don’t want to admit that you have certain fears or ever experienced whatever painful event made you forever fearful, but this is the only way to heal and start living your life fearlessly.

How To Eliminate Fear

Once you have pinpointed what and where you fears come from, you will be able to better see the direct connection to your immediate present. Once out of the fearful atmosphere that caused you the lifelong fear and anxiety, you can better see the fear as perhaps your loved ones have all along: clearly and objectively. The more objectively you can see your fears, the less connection you will be able to draw between you and it as well as you and your painful past. Since that time, you have had so many experiences, relationships, and times that provided quite probably a different perspective altogether.

Of course, it is absolutely crucial to remember that realizing, recognizing, and eliminating your fears takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight. It will take some time and practice to reprogram yourself. Realize that these fears cannot hurt you and that you have nothing to fear.  You can use positive affirmations or creative visualization to recondition yourself.

Remember this, fear is normal and courage is not about being fearless, but about having fears and working your way through them. Every true life hero would have felt fear at some stage, but they were able to look that fear in the face and carry on as if it wasn’t there, probably trembling all the way, but none the less they worked through it. So too can you, but first you have to recognize it for what it is, a feeling deep inside trying to keep you in your comfort zone. By all means take notice of your fear as it may be warning you of some real danger, but remember that nine times out of ten what you fear may happen, never does.

In conclusion, there is no one way to eliminate fear and make you a courageous, well-rounded individual overnight; however, once you start looking at your fears for what they are it will be a lot easier to eliminate.